Are you in favor of relaxing a child's hair?

My beauty editor, Ayanna and I were discussing this topic, along with the haircare of children in general after a friend on Facebook left a comment asking me for suggestions on caring for the hair of children who had different hair textures (oh, and I did NOT suggest a relaxer!).

Now I will tell you all that I wanted a relaxer as a child (blame it on the media, society, etc.), but my mother was not having it. She told me that I could not get a relaxer until I could pay for it and maintain/take care of it. And so, I didn't get my hair relaxed until I was a sophomore in high school and had a job...

So my question for you today is: Are you in favor of relaxing a child's hair?



Luxe Tips said...

Absolutely not! Luxe baby will not get a relaxer unless she gets it on her own and after she has left the house. Having a relaxer was the worst thing I have ever done to my hair. Now that it is 100% natural and I do blow it out and press it, it is strong and healthy!

July 26, 2010 at 6:43 PM
Jamie @ Rural Glamour said...

I begged for a relaxer. BEGGED. because my 9 year old cousin had a fresh, hot jheri curl and I wanted one. Well, my mom also had a curl and refused to get me one because she couldn't maintain the cost of two curls in the house.smh lol! I laugh about it now but wasn't funny then. She settled on me having a "kiddie perm" which was poorly maintained. I suffered permanent hair loss because of it.
Your mom was on point. Til' you can maintain it you can have a relaxer. There are so many options for little girls now to take care of their hair. I have 2 boys so I'm outta the clear on the relaxer situation. But if I had a little girl, no relaxer til' you can pay to maintain it.

July 26, 2010 at 6:44 PM
Nikia said...

I feel exactly the same way as these ladies. I actually began my transition to natural hair in an effort to discourage my daughter from relaxers and help her value the beauty of her God given hair. If she chooses to relax her hair, it will definitely not be while I'm taking care of it! I would like her to make the decision about relaxing long after she already knows her natural texture...hopefully she'll decide not to.

July 26, 2010 at 6:55 PM
Anonymous said...

No, I'm 17 and i love my natural hair and i've never permed/relaxed it. Yeah sometimes i want straight hair but something like a relaxer is damaging.It also teaches the kid that they weren't beautiful, that they have to add something to be better. I think all kids should Just be natural.

July 26, 2010 at 7:17 PM
KamariChelsea said...

This is a great post and a very important conversation that needs to continue among women with curly or non-straight hair. I am completely against relaxing a child's hair, as it sends the wrong message and perpetuates insecurity among our daughters. Taking the risk of potentially burning out someone's hair in hopes of making them look like something they are not at a young age can be tramautizing.

As adults, we make beauty decisions because it is fun. As little girls, beauty should be fun as well, but it should also be harmless and enable them to embrace who they are. Let them decide, when they are old enough, if they will accept their natural hair or try something new.

July 27, 2010 at 10:51 AM
Mischo Beauty said...

To Luxe Tips: OMG! You sound like my mother, LOL. And of course I understand your point of view.

July 27, 2010 at 5:22 PM
Mischo Beauty said...

To Jamie @ Rural Glamour: Haha! Ok, I totally understand, and yes, the key to maintaining a relaxer IS the maintenance!

July 27, 2010 at 5:23 PM
Mischo Beauty said...

To Nikia: Good for you!

July 27, 2010 at 5:24 PM
Mischo Beauty said...

To PDuffey: Love your point of view. Thanks for sharing it. :)

July 27, 2010 at 5:25 PM
Mischo Beauty said...

To KamariChelsea: Exactly! I'm in full agreement with you!

July 27, 2010 at 5:26 PM

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